Woke Kevin Alerechi writes
The body chemistry is of the opinion that during puberty, maturity begins. Therefore, reproduction should hit the ground running. If reproduction starts with respect to the demands of the body language and there is no finance or source of income to supply or sustain the needs of reproduction, what should be the way forward? On the other hand, the urge or instincts as prescribed by the body Chemistry is consciously oppressed, subdued and silenced in a bid to acquire skills, develop knowledge and wisdom capable of securing opportunities that will sustain income and maintain the needs of reproduction. In this case, the years put in to acquire skills, knowledge and opportunity seems to have attacked and weaken the organs responsible for reproduction.
A man of sixty with two masters degrees and one doctorate with many skills and opportunities is celebrating his six (6) years son’s birthday. Mathematically, this boy was born when his father was 54 years old. As parents, wealthy or poor, strength and energy is required to be able to carry the children from point A to point B. For instance, three hefty children has slept in the sitting room while watching home movie or cartoon. The parents need strength to carry them to the bedroom. At night when they are a sleep you need to check on them as to encourage them ease themselves. During school time, whether there is mobility or not, energy is needed. So the point here is that, is it good to go into marriage early when the body chemistry is prime? On the part of the woman particularly, biology told us that ‘ it gets to a time in a woman’s life; she will not be able to conceive. And again, it is also paramount for a girl child to acquire skills that will ease domestic works such as cooking, washing, sewing, serving, plaiting, driving, teaching, etc. Apart from the western and formal education, it is very necessary for a woman to get all these above mentioned skills to prepare her towards home management. Now, the discrepancy comes, the time given to western formal education and that of skill, if not properly utilized its capable of launching one into menopause.
However, what happens there is that a well developed domesticated career woman is finding conception a bit difficult. Biology and other health knowledge has it that at tender age of (12-18) (19-22) every human cells and hormone are hyperactive to stimuli. Thereby ready to answer any call. What about the drive? A situation where age and stress has weaken the cells that drives the urge for satisfaction. A serious issue sets in. A party of the couple seemingly younger complains not satisfied. As a result, attempts is made to venture out in search of satisfaction. In most cases, expedition disintegrates the family apart. In a bid to gain satisfaction the second half suffers abandonment. Let us also appreciate a situation where the older ones dies much earlier leaving second half in pain of loneliness. If the reason for marriage is pleasure and procreation then the both should be met anything short of that is abnormal. The urge should be satisfied to attain optimum pleasure that warranted the union. The human toys adult plays with, is also needed. This will to a large extent cement the union. No matter the amount of love that exist between husband and wife, if there is no cry of a baby in the house, total peace and love cannot be attain. The childlessness may lead to flash back on how they live life in the past. The blame may weigh more on the husband or the wife. Therefore, emotion must be removed from the fact, so that certain reality can be achieved. If marriage is contracted at the prime time say 18-20 years irrespective of skills and income the tendency of consulting a gynaecologist to examine the state of the womb, run series of diagnosis and prescription of drugs to achieve conception may not arise. The stigma of barriness will not be a societal issues as it is today. None shall be barren is applicable to all women but artificial man-made-delay has caused some fruitful women barren. Energy boosting drug would not have existed. The body system is complete engine that function without support. But the delay during acquisition of skills, education and job opportunity has rendered some body cells weak and incapacitated. This has grossly affected the efficacy of the union called marriage. Therefore, while you strive to attain certain level acquiring skills, knowledge, wisdom and understanding to make a comfortable union and raise children with ease using the arsenals, convenience also think about the other side of the coin. We can not eat our cake and have it. As we strive to attain higher in a particular facet of life, there are other aspects that suffers abandonment and neglect. So, a balance must be taken.